Kylie

22 Apr Kylie

Finding Faith With Infertility

I would just like to state to all the women who are struggling with infertility… You are more than your struggle. You are stronger than your struggle. Your life isn’t defined by this.

This is something that I have come to learn, but I had to preach it to myself over and over again. I still find myself being overpowered by my struggle with infertility. 

When you look around and you see family members and friends being able to have a biological family of their own and you think, “why can’t that be me?” It is just HARD.

People will truly never understand unless they have actually went through it. I have had so much support from my family and friends and I am so thankful for them. But, no one truly knows how it feels unless they have been through it.

If I was going to give advice to someone on how to comfort someone going through infertility, it would be this:

If you don’t know exactly what to say, don’t say anything or just say, “I am so sorry you are going through this. I am here for you.” Please do not say, “it’ll happen when it’s supposed to happen” or “maybe you just need to stop thinking about it.” As a woman personally struggling with infertility, these statements do not bring comfort.

So until the end of my life, even if I have a baby of my own or I adopt, I will forever choose to be a voice for those who are going through this struggle. It is something I wish upon no one. The pain it causes is unimaginable. You feel worthless. You feel like the elephant in the room. You feel broken. You feel like you are robbing your husband of something. You feel like you are always missing out. You feel disappointed. You feel sadness. You feel like you can’t talk about it. And the list just goes on and on and on.

I just want to let all of the families out there struggling that you are not alone and that you also have a voice. You are not alone. We need to bring notice to the impact infertility has on a persons life. Because each and every person is beautiful!